Kim Schofield

Born in Phoenix, Arizona, USA, 1959

I have endured the typical embarrassments of living with what is widely perceived as a girl's name for 43 years. Such as "Kim's a girl's name." LOL "Did you say Tim?" "Is Kim there?" Letters addressed "Miss Kim Schofield." Invitations to Woman's self-improvement seminars etc.... But the only thing that really irritates me about being named Kim is being asked "Is this your card?" "I need to see some I.D." I am strongly offended by this as I believe it is highly discriminatory. If the card had the name of John or Bob or Spike this question simply would not be asked. Every time this occurs (Approx. 1 in 5 times that I present my card) I tell the clerk that it is discriminatory. I tell them that if the name on the card were John or Bob you wouldn't be asking. I tell them that they should either card everybody or nobody. I also tell them that if my signature matches the one on the card there shouldn't be any further questions. I think having the name Kim has built character. I think it has forced me to be more aware of my masculinity. I think I tend to sub-consciously demonstrate male traits to be sure that other people aren't confused by my gender. Very low key mannerisms likened to the male display in the end zone upon scoring a touch down. Always maintaining a "Can do"; attitude verses a self-defeating attitude of weakness or doubt with respect to my capabilities. Always maintaining a healthy sense of pride without being boastful or arrogant. I think that names play a bigger role in who we are than most of us realize. I don't think that I would have come to this realization if I had been named John Bob or Spike. When life hands you lemons MAKE LEMONADE!!!!